I am stressed and anxious, what can I do about it?
If you're stressed, whether by your job or by something more personal, the first step to feeling better is to identify the cause.
The most unhelpful thing you can do is turn to something unhealthy to help you cope, such as smoking or drinking.
What you can do to address stress
Exercise won't make your stress disappear, but it will reduce some of the emotional intensity that you're feeling, clearing your thoughts and letting you to deal with your problems more calmly. You don't have to go to the gym. You can go for a walk or cycle!
Get started with exercise.
There's a solution to any problem. "If you remain passive, thinking, 'I can't do anything about my problem', your stress will get worse. That feeling of loss of control is one of the main causes of stress and lack of wellbeing.
The act of taking control is in itself empowering, and it's a crucial part of finding a solution that satisfies you and not someone else.
3.Connect with people
A good support network of colleagues, friends and family can ease your work troubles and help you see things in a different way.
If you don't connect with people, you won't have support to turn to when you need help.
The activities we do with friends help us relax. We often have a good laugh with them, which is an excellent stress reliever.
Talking things through with a friend will also help you find solutions to your problems.
4.Have some 'me time'
Working long hours, means we often don't spend enough time doing things we really enjoy.
We all need to take some time for socialising, relaxation or exercise.
why not setting aside a couple of nights a week for some quality "me time" away from work.
Setting yourself goals and challenges, whether at work or outside, such as learning a new language or a new sport, helps to build confidence. This will help you deal with stress.
By continuing to learn, you become more emotionally resilient as a person. It arms you with knowledge and makes you want to do things rather than be passive, such as watching TV all the time.
6.Avoid unhealthy habits
Don't rely on alcohol, smoking and caffeine as your ways of coping. "Men more than women are likely to do this. We call this "avoidance behaviour".
Over the long term, these crutches won't solve your problems. They'll just create new ones. It's like putting your head in the sand. It might provide temporary relief, but it won't make the problems disappear. You need to tackle the cause of your stress.
7.Help other people
Evidence shows that people who help others, through activities such as volunteering or community work, become more resilient.
Helping people who are often in situations worse than yours will help you put your problems into perspective.The more you give, the more resilient and happy you feel.
If you don't have time to volunteer, try to do someone a favour every day. It can be something as small as helping someone to cross the road or going on a coffee run for colleagues.
8.Work smarter, not harder
Working smarter means prioritising your work, concentrating on the tasks that will make a real difference.
Leave the least important tasks to last. Accept that your in-tray will always be full. Don't expect it to be empty at the end of the day.
9.Try to be positive
Look for the positives in life, and things for which you're grateful. People don't always appreciate what they have. Try to see your glass half full instead of half empty.
Try writing down three things that went well, or for which you're grateful, at the end of every day.
10.Accept the things you can't change
Changing a difficult situation isn't always possible. Try to concentrate on the things you do have control over.
If your company is going under and is making redundancies, for example, there's nothing you can do about it.
In a situation like that, you need to focus on the things that you can control, such as looking for a new job.